It's not that bad....

As I was walking to my car in the 100 degree weather after work today, my eyes caught the rear passenger side tire of my car as I walked past the van parked next to me. It was flat.  Time to rage and get mad!!!  Not really, just time to grab the jack and tire iron from the trunk.  Then, as i was starting to loosen the lug nuts, I noticed that the front tire was also flat.  Rage time?  Nope, time to put the jack and tire iron back into the trunk and walk to the nearest gas station for a couple of cans of fix a flat. Finally arrived back at the car, sweating like crazy from the walk.  Fill the front tire with fix a flat and move on to the rear tire only to see hear air escaping from the sidewall on the other side of the tire as I drained the can into the valve stem. Time for the donut once again....but still not time to get mad and act crazy over a hole in rubber.

In my journey of life I have realized that getting mad really doesn't help make this journey any easier. It almost always makes the road rockier, the ice cream meltier, the coke flattier....

When things start to get rough, start to melt, start to get flat, I remind myself that I am healthy and have a beautiful daughter that loves me and I remind myself that I am fortunate to be able to care for the ones that I love. I remind myself that I am free to walk around, that I am not bound to live my life constrained in a cage.  I remind myself that it could have been three tires, maybe maybe even all four.

What good comes from anger? -----I can't think of anything.

Next time you feel like you have had enough, remember the old saying "Kill them with kindness."  "Them" doesn't always have to refer to a person or multiple people, it can refer to inanimate objects - the cup that spilled, the food that fell on the floor, even animals - the dog that peed on the carpet, the cat that knocked the books off of the shelf. You can kill the anger with kindness and thoughts of what you enjoy in life.

Many people ask me why I am always happy and always smiling or trying to make others smile. Maybe this post will help those asking me this question find the answer.

If the everyone could get rid of the anger, the world would live with.....

A whole of bunch of nothing is in our way

I am going to start this off by explaining how I see the world as it is today. First, a song that explains what I think is a problem that a lot of people do not realize (or maybe they do and are trying to hide from life.)

We Live by Rehab





The lyrics, in case you do not like the song and just want to see what I am referring to:

We live like there ain't no tomorrow
No regrets, no time for the sorrow
Keep movin one foot in front of the other
We all looking for something Hey, hey, hey

I'm in the center lane on a freeway
My radiator blown on a 100 degree day
And I'm more in a hurry than I was before
And once again the whole world is in my way
So this is earth and I'm stuck here
Where profanity pours from faces like mine
And the only thing that we're sure of is
Is we're runnin out of money, patience and time
One step forward and two steps back
And we're wishin for a future, reminiscing on a flashback
Chasin a dream, hopin it exists
And we're grittin our teeth and clinchin our fists

We live like there ain't no tomorrow
No regrets, no time for the sorrow
Keep movin one foot in front of the other
We all looking for something Hey, hey, hey

Am I crazy, maybe. my brain be gravy
Insane the days we have witnessed lately
It pains my greatly someone could hate me
Maybe they were lied to as babies too
Can't see logic, we camouflage it
Technology allows us to dip and dodge it
Wit magic gadgets, wires and magnets
We're standin stagnant and thinking backwards
A whole of bunch of nothing is in our way?

We live like there ain't no tomorrow
No regrets, no time for the sorrow
Keep movin one foot in front of the other
We all looking for something Hey, hey, hey 

 I'm sure you can tell where this is going by now. It seems most everyone is content with distracting themselves from the simple pleasures in life. Granted, these distractions do take our minds of of the hard times and having to deal with emotions. What happened to setting around and chatting? Now we grab a phone and start texting or surfing the internet if we are in a place with strangers. Just think of all of the people and stories you may have missed out on if you would have started a conversation with that man/woman in the waiting room or in the break room at work.

Don't get me wrong, I think the internet is a great thing to this world, without it I would not have friends all over the world. I would not be able to find out how to change the rear motor mount on a Mitsubishi Eclipse without either paying someone to do it or buying a manual and searching through it only to find out I have been reading how to change the oil. I would not be able to look up my favorite songs as soon as I want to hear them (Grooveshark, woot!) I would not be able to get in touch with friends that I haven't talked to since high school. Technology is a great tool and has done a lot to better so many lives, but like most everything else, there is a dark side to it.

All i am trying to get across is do yourself a favor and live life. I know there aren't many roses to stop and smell in between work, home, school, wherever you are going, but there are people who would love to have a conversation with you and share their stories and there are people who would love to hear what you have to say in return.

Put the mouse down, go outside, take your children to the park. No park around? Too hot or cold? Stay inside and turn off the tv for a little while and play hide and seek, play a board game. No board games? set down and have a conversation with your family, My daughter surprises me everyday when I talk to her. She has a great imagination and can tell you some very good stories.

Just experience life for a few hours per day. There is no reason to give up cell phones/computers for good. Have a problem you feel is going to make you stress out or break down in tears? Take care of the problem, release the tears, and then relax. Don't take the easy way out by pushing it away for another day. We all know the longer you wait the harder it will be to overcome.

Testify!

The jump off...

First, I have never done anything like this, so bear with me and enjoy the ride.

I have recently been introduced to a new world, the world of expressing your thoughts and feelings in written (sometimes musically enhanced) form.  I am not sure how this is going to go or how to even start something like this but here we go.

I will be posting what has been referred to (by a very intelligent and intriguing person) as "Your Soundtrack To Life" along with randomness from inside my always roaming mind.